Some of us who have been dating for a long period of time may have experienced this first date taboo. You think you are just going out to have a drink, a small bite, hopefully, a great conversation, and you end up searching for your panties, so you can make the trek home. Is having sex on the first date still taboo? With apps like Tinder, sexting, and internet dating, is this taboo a relationship killer?
I remember when I had my sex on the first date experience. It was totally unexpected and even though I was supposed to do the early morning walk of shame, I did not feel slutty or guilty. I was actually happy that I found someone sexually attractive and that feeling was reciprocated. He also never made me feel like a woman of the night and we continued to see each other after that. It did not turn into a long term relationship, but it also did not end the same night I decided to give it up.
With Age Comes Wisdom
As I get older I am learning to view myself as a sexual being and that wanting to have sex even if I am not in a relationship, is not a bad thing. Experience has taught me this dating taboo is not a relationship killer, but you shouldn’t be jumping into bed with anyone if your passion is aroused. You have to be selective in that and exert some self-control.
I also think men are a little more accepting of this taboo then women. I have read a few articles on this dating taboo and some men believed that they missed on great relationships because they thought less of the woman they had sex with. With time and maturity, they realized their view was skewed by societal views on women and sexuality.
So have you ever had sex on the first date? Do you think men and women feel differently about this subject?
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